When it comes to finding a home, the more questions and doubts the less likely you are to make a good decision. A lot of the time when I am searching for a new home, I will ask myself if I am sure I want to move in.
The problem is that the more I am asked to make a decision, the more I am tempted to think that I am being asked to make a decision. The more I am asked to make a decision, the more I am tempted to believe that I am being asked to make a good decision. That’s why it is so important to have a solid decision in place before you even go to the final step of a home search.
The easiest way to make a decision is to write it down and then stick it somewhere prominent. I like to hang my decision in the kitchen mirror, where I can see it every time I get dressed. If my decision is to buy a home, I will want to have a copy of it. The more I make a decision, the more I am tempted to believe that I am making a good decision.
The problem is not only the temptation of believing you are making a good decision, but also the lure of the “what if” questions. These are the questions we ask of ourselves to make sure we are making a good decision: 1. What will I need to do to get my home? 2. What will I need to do to live in a home that I love? 3. What will I need to do to make my home a home? 4.
This last one is so important.
The problem with these questions is that they only ask us about our own selves. So they are asking us about the past. But we know nothing about the future. We can’t ever know if we will be able to make a home that we love and that we will be able to have a family. So there is no way I can ever be in a position to ask these questions and make a good decision.
I was going to say this, but this is a very important point. We cannot ask ourselves these questions if we are living on autopilot. We have to take our cues from the past and we have to learn to give ourselves good enough answers. If we really want to live a happy life and make a successful home, we have to be willing to let go of the past and just be comfortable in the present.
So why is it important to you to be in a position to make these decisions? If we ask ourselves, “Why do I want to be a wealthy and successful man,” we’re going to have a hell of a time coming up with a good answer. And if we ask ourselves, “Why do I want to have a family and be a good husband and father,” the results are much the same.
Why do it? We all have reasons that we think we should do these things. It’s a matter of what your reasons are. If your reasons are to make money and have a family, then you’re in the wrong line of work. If your reasons are to live in a nice home, you’re in the wrong line of work. If your reasons are to be a good husband and father, you’re in the wrong line of work.